Another month and another house update. And what a month it has been. When we begun the process of buying a house and renovating it, I had no idea how emotionally draining and tough it would be. When we first moved in, I really felt like I finally had found ‘home’ in the UK and I … Continue reading Touching Down (House Progress – Part 2)
The house is starting to come together really well – albeit slowly! The majority of our efforts have been concentrated on the downstairs area as we save up money to have upstairs carpeted. Oh the joys of renovating! What I’ve learnt through this process is that things take a lot longer to do up than … Continue reading House progress (Part 1)
“Never in the field of human conflict was so much owed by so many to so few” Winston Churchill History has always a great love of mine. Growing up my Dad used to share stories of his ancestors in the South African war and my Mom used to relate stories of her studying as a … Continue reading Honouring the Battle of Britain
As a South African, holidays by the sea are a family tradition. From the hot humid heat of the Durban beach front to the wild shores of the Eastern Cape, we’re spoilt for choice. Here in the UK, holidays to seaside are somewhat different but equally as charming in their own way. When my sister … Continue reading An English Seaside Experience
There is a house built out of stone
Wooden floors, walls and window sills
Tables and chairs worn by all of the dust
The idea of ‘home’ is something that’s been running around in my head these last few months. Matt and I recently bought a house together, which is not only a large financial commitment but a pretty big emotional one as well. I first came to the UK in January last year with the idea that I’d give life in the UK as go for 6 months, and see where Matt and my relationship stood after many years apart. Through the bad times in adjusting to my new life, I was always comforted by the idea that if things didn’t work out then I could just leave and there’d be nothing holding me in the UK.
But from January of this year, things began to shift when I bought a car and began to slowly plant some roots in England, albeit begrudgingly at times. I voted in the elections this year, and began to feel a tie to England as I debated with my colleagues on British policy and what I wanted to see in my future in the next five years. For the first time since moving over, I felt not only a connection but a sense of ownership of England’s future as I cast my vote.
While all of these internal feelings were raging, Matt began talking about getting a house together. A house for our future together, which both terrified and excited me at the same time. Taking a mortgage and becoming a home owner is a massive commitment for anyone, especially when you are trying to figure out this whole ‘adult responsibilities’ thing. But buying a home in another country that I don’t consider as my own, and in many ways still baffles me culturally, is even more scary. And in the back of my mind was the fact that in many ways I would be closing the door on coming back to South Africa in the near future, something which still grieves me greatly. I have never wanted to be someone who is associated with being a bitter expat who has given up on South Africa. Quite the opposite in fact. But as we debated our future together, hopes for our relationship and careers, it felt like the next step. And so with a leap of faith, we found our house – the ugly duckling.
Hello again! It feels so good to be back to blogging and starting up a fresh new space to share beautiful things. After 4 years of blogging and a change of country, I started to feel like I had out grown The Angelheaded Hipster. We loved each other a lot and it took me to … Continue reading Introducing For Wings & Roots